Moving in with your partner can be exciting. On one hand, you’re saving on rent and waking up next to your partner every morning. On the other, you’re about to learn how they load a dishwasher, or worse, that they don’t. Before you haul your boxes into a shared apartment or house, it helps to know what you’re really signing up for. Here are things worth thinking about.

Money Talks

The truth is romance doesn’t pay the bills. One of the biggest stress points for couples who move in together is money. Who covers rent? Do you split groceries 50/50, even if one eats lightly and the other has a bigger appetite.

In South Africa, Stats SA reported that financial disagreements are a top contributor to breakups among cohabiting couples. It’s better to have money before the moving truck arrives. Create a budget, agree on how to share expenses, and be clear about debts or savings goals.

Chores Reveal More Than Character

Household chores will also tell you more about the person you are living with. Some procrastinate, others struggle with tidiness. To keep peace, chores should be shared based on strengths and preferences. If one of you loves cooking, the other can handle dishes. If one hates dusting, maybe the other should do that. It’s a partnership, not a contract.

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Space Isn’t Just Physical

When you first move in, the closeness feels special. But over time, constant togetherness can start to feel like too much. Even the happiest couples need breathing room. Sharing a home doesn’t mean you should be together all the time. It’s important to respect each other’s need for alone time.

Expectations is Different From Reality

Before moving in, many people imagine slow breakfasts in bed, watching movies, and sharing cooking adventures. Sometimes, those moments happen. But you should understand that it also includes bills, arguments and dealing with each other’s weaknesses.

Research from the American Psychological Association shows that couples who openly discuss expectations before living together are more satisfied. My opinion? Couples shouldn’t expect perfection but should expect compromise.

Moving in is a Test

Cohabiting is not the same as marriage, it’s more like a trial run. Some couples discover they love it, while others realize they’re better apart. And that’s okay. Moving in together isn’t about failing or succeeding, it’s about learning.

Final Thoughts

Before moving in, consider all variables. Discuss money, how chores will be shared and set realistic expectations. Sharing a home deepens your bond and creates a daily life that feels like teamwork. So, before you pack  in, ask yourself, am I ready?

Many people say they love their partner but still hesitate to settle down in a situation that’s more common than it seems. While this might sound strange,  this is common in many relationships. The fear of commitment is real and it often stems from different personal and social pressures. Here are some reasons people may be in love but not ready to settle down.

Fear of Losing their Independence 

One reason people shy away from commitment is that they don’t want to lose their freedom. Some people believe that when they settle down with one partner, it will rob them of freedom. They worry about having enough time alone, and not being able to make decisions without others. This is especially challenging for introverts or people who have lived alone for many years.

Trust Issues 

Previous heartbreaks are painful and hard to heal. Those who have experienced betrayal often find it hard to commit to a relationship. The pain of betrayal can leave them reluctant to fully trust or commit to one partner. Trust issues are difficult to overcome and could cause someone to hold back.

Unrealistic Expectations and Social Pressures 

Society often portrays marriage as a perfect ending or ultimate goal. This can be seen in movies and on social media platforms where marriage is painted as flawless. For some people, the weight of matching these expectations is huge and can make them hesitant. They may not feel capable of living up to their partner’s dreams and are afraid of failure. The unrealistic expectations society shows are the reasons many people don’t want to settle down.

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Fear of Being Vulnerable 

True commitment  comes with responsibilities that some people are unwilling to take on. There are lifestyle adjustments that frighten singles from getting married. Some of the lifestyle changes have been more accountable with time, practicing honesty, and managing finances responsibly.. This type of vulnerability is what people are trying to protect themselves from.

Not Being Ready 

The truth is that many people are not just mentally ready to settle down. They may be rich, have a good job, or be in their 30s, but the timing doesn’t just feel right. People at this stage need encouragement to commit. Rather than applying pressure, it helps to encourage and show why taking the next step can be meaningful.

Final Thoughts 

Not committing to a relationship doesn’t mean your partner is unserious or selfish. Sometimes it comes from the place of pain, fear, and societal pressure. When you understand your partner’s reasons for not committing, approaching the subject will be easier. Showing love, understanding, and patience are the best ways to get your partner to settle down.

Ever felt betrayed by someone you loved with all your heart?  Breakups can be hurtful and leave you heartbroken. While no relationship is perfect, being suddenly abandoned can be mentally draining. Healing takes time, but many people fall into habits that make recovery harder. A popular saying goes, No one can heal in the same environment they are broken. By understanding these habits, you are in a better position to heal faster. Here are some post-breakup habits that slow down healing.

Checking Your Ex’s Social Media Handles

While visiting your ex-lover’s social media pages might look harmless, it reopens old wounds. It becomes worse when the person has moved on and posts happy photos and videos of themselves happy. When you do this, you start doubting yourself. Instead of focusing on what your ex is doing, redirect that energy towards your growth.

Thinking About the Past 

It’s normal to start reminiscing about your past experience with your partner. But dwelling on such thoughts can hold you back from moving on. Reflections are good, but overthinking stops you from facing reality. Rather than dwell on “what if”, move to “what next”.

Using Rebounds as Distractions

Jumping into a new relationship right after a breakup might feel like a quick escape. However, most rebound relationships are built on shaky foundations and often turn out badly. Those who do this bury their pain under temporary relationships, instead of allowing themselves time to heal. A healthy relationship is built when you have recovered from a past relationship. A quote by popular author Steve Maraboli says, letting go means to realise that some people are part of your history and not part of your destiny.

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Suppressing Emotions 

After a painful separation, most people throw themselves into work or social outings. This is done to numb the sadness. However these are only temporary reliefs, as the pain resurfaces later. Pushing back painful memories only delays closure and doesn’t help with healing. If you want to recover, talk to someone you trust, and find healthy ways to release your feelings. This is not a weakness; this is you showing that you are human.

Keeping Unhealthy Attachment

Holding onto old gifts or text messages from your ex can delay your healing. from your ex can slow down your healing. Even if you convince yourself it’s harmless, these reminders keep the bond alive and often reignite false hope. Letting go of those attachments is an important step toward real closure.

Bottom Line 

Healing from a breakup is not something that can be rushed. You need to be patient and also avoid harmful habits that trap you in your past. When you visit your ex’s social media pages, keep their gifts, or jump into a new relationship, your peace is affected. Breakups are painful, but it’s a chance to rediscover yourself and become a better person in the future.