Thinking of Moving in Together? Key Things to Know

Moving in with your partner can be exciting. On one hand, you’re saving on rent and waking up next to your partner every morning. On the other, you’re about to learn how they load a dishwasher, or worse, that they don’t. Before you haul your boxes into a shared apartment or house, it helps to know what you’re really signing up for. Here are things worth thinking about.

Money Talks

The truth is romance doesn’t pay the bills. One of the biggest stress points for couples who move in together is money. Who covers rent? Do you split groceries 50/50, even if one eats lightly and the other has a bigger appetite.

In South Africa, Stats SA reported that financial disagreements are a top contributor to breakups among cohabiting couples. It’s better to have money before the moving truck arrives. Create a budget, agree on how to share expenses, and be clear about debts or savings goals.

Chores Reveal More Than Character

Household chores will also tell you more about the person you are living with. Some procrastinate, others struggle with tidiness. To keep peace, chores should be shared based on strengths and preferences. If one of you loves cooking, the other can handle dishes. If one hates dusting, maybe the other should do that. It’s a partnership, not a contract.

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Space Isn’t Just Physical

When you first move in, the closeness feels special. But over time, constant togetherness can start to feel like too much. Even the happiest couples need breathing room. Sharing a home doesn’t mean you should be together all the time. It’s important to respect each other’s need for alone time.

Expectations is Different From Reality

Before moving in, many people imagine slow breakfasts in bed, watching movies, and sharing cooking adventures. Sometimes, those moments happen. But you should understand that it also includes bills, arguments and dealing with each other’s weaknesses.

Research from the American Psychological Association shows that couples who openly discuss expectations before living together are more satisfied. My opinion? Couples shouldn’t expect perfection but should expect compromise.

Moving in is a Test

Cohabiting is not the same as marriage, it’s more like a trial run. Some couples discover they love it, while others realize they’re better apart. And that’s okay. Moving in together isn’t about failing or succeeding, it’s about learning.

Final Thoughts

Before moving in, consider all variables. Discuss money, how chores will be shared and set realistic expectations. Sharing a home deepens your bond and creates a daily life that feels like teamwork. So, before you pack  in, ask yourself, am I ready?