Do New Year’s Resolutions Really Last?

Every January begins with the same hopeful ritual. Someone has already swore that this is the year they will wake up at 5 am, save money, avoid alcohol and become a completely new person. By mid February, they are already back to their old habits. So the big question remains: do New Year’s resolutions really last?

A lady listing down her resolutions: Forbes

At their core, New Year’s resolutions are promises people make to themselves at the start of a new year. They are usually tied to self improvement. Better health, habits,finances, and relationships. The new year feels symbolic. A clean slate. A chance to rewrite the story. There is something powerful about that collective moment when the calendar changes and everyone feels like change is possible.

But reality often hits fast. Most resolutions don’t make it past the first few weeks. One reason is that most resolutions are made due to excitement, not logic. People make decisions without mapping out how realistic it is. There are several ways to set new year resolutions, assumptions aren’t part of it.

Another reason resolutions fail is that they are too extreme. Someone who wants to engage in simple self care habits that makes a difference but has poor hygiene. A friend once said she quit her resolution by January 10 because it felt like punishment. The truth is, drastic changes are hard to sustain.

An African Writing : IStock

There is also the pressure factor. Many people make resolutions because it feels expected. Everyone is doing it, so they join in. A friend admitted he made a resolution to read 10 books  because it sounded impressive, not because he enjoyed reading. By the end of January, he had not finished one chapter. When a goal does not connect to your real desires, motivation disappears.

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So what actually makes resolutions work?

First, be clear on what you want and can do. Don’t say things that aren’t realistic. Be honest with yourself, rather than saying “I want to be healthier,” say “I will walk for 15 minutes three times a week.” Clear goals can be achieved even when motivation drops.

An Hopeful Woman : FreePix

Second, start small. Don’t be in a hurry to achieve your goals. Small habits when done consistently will last. People who succeed often focus on progress, not perfection.

Third, detach from the calendar. A goal does not need January 1 to be valid. When people stop seeing resolutions as a once a year event and start seeing growth as ongoing, they remove unnecessary pressure.

Beautiful African Woman Writing Down her Resolutions : Yahoo

Finally, don’t be scared to fail. Missing a day or two should not deter you. People who stick with their resolutions are not those who won’t fail, but those who stand up when they fall.

So do New Year’s resolutions really last? Most do not. They fail because they are rushed, unrealistic, and not done logically. When goals are honest, flexible, and personal, they aren’t just New Year’s resolutions, they become habits.